5 Tips for Couples to Open Up About Sex

Whether you're a new couple or seasoned partners, here at Champ, we believe that keeping the conversation open about your desires and preferences can truly spice up your relationship. So, let's dive into five tips for more candid and fun chats about intimacy.

Emphasize the Positive

Want to try something new in bed? Or perhaps you want her to slow down (or speed up) during playtime. Like it when she applies more or less pressure during certain moves. How do you bring this up?

Enter the compliment sandwich. It's a communication technique that works like a charm. Start by offering up some praise for the things that you think are great. Then, sprinkle in a dash of constructive feedback. Finally, seal it with another compliment. So, the conversation reinforces things that are working great and includes a touch of constructive feedback.

Use Movies to Open Communication and Explore

Lights, camera, action! When it comes to spicing things up, try swapping out your regular Netflix lineup for something a little steamier. Whether it's an action thriller or a sultry indie flick, movies can serve as the perfect icebreaker to discussing your desires. And hey, if you're feeling adventurous, maybe even delve into some well-curated adult content. Just remember, it's all about sparking conversation and exploring together. 

If you’re interested in using some adult content to facilitate this conversation, there are ethical porn options available. Just remember that both porn and Hollywood can set unrealistic expectations – so don’t worry if you don’t think you measure up.

When Matters!

Timing is everything, especially when it comes to discussing matters of the bedroom. The most important rule is to avoid conversations about sex when your partner is walking in the door, feeling hungry, tired, or stressed. Instead, pick a moment when you're both relaxed and in good spirits. Also, have bedroom conversations OUTSIDE of the bedroom, otherwise you run the risk of hurting feelings or ruining the mood.

Navigate Differences

Let's face it; no two people are exactly alike, especially when it comes to preferences in the bedroom. Embrace your differences. It's not about being right, it's about being happy together. Respect each other's boundaries and desires, and be open to compromise. After all, finding common ground is part of the adventure.

Use "I Feel" Statements

Repeat this: "I feel statements are my new best friend." Seriously, though, using "I Feel" statements can work wonders in fostering open and honest communication. Instead of pointing fingers or assigning blame, focus on expressing your feelings, concerns and needs. Whether it's a gentle nudge towards more foreplay or a request for a specific position, framing your desires with "I feel" statements keeps the conversation constructive and drama-free.

There you go - five tips to ignite those intimate conversations with your partner and to take your relationship to new heights. Communication is always key, especially when it comes to matters of the heart (and other body parts).