How’s college treating you? With so many opportunities and experiences ahead of you, you’re likely feeling a thrilling mixture of excitement and nervousness. We’ve been there. Whether you’re fresh out of high school or are starting college later in life, you’re about to step into a new chapter of growth and transition. Even if you’re not living the dorm life, the responsibilities and autonomy of college can affect all aspects of life, including sex. So if you’re unsure about sex in this new environment, then stick around for some tips on navigating sex from freshman to senior year.
Advice for Newcomers
As if freshman year needed more uncertainty, many first-time students start college in a brand new city or aren’t used to the busy, bustling environments. This may also be the first time someone is free to roam and live independently, without parental supervision. Some people may even transfer to a new college during their second or third year. And if you’re entering college with a partner, the both of you may be experiencing the same questions and experiences for the first time. So if sex isn’t the first thing on your mind right now, we don’t blame you. And if it is…we still don’t blame you! We’re here to shed some light on the subject and hopefully help you feel more at ease about sex in a college setting.
Step one in setting yourself up for a legendary sex life in college is knowledge. Understanding your sexuality, turn-ons, turn-offs, and boundaries is critical. Without this self-understanding, you’re laying shaky foundations for the future of your sex life. So how does one get to know themselves sexually if they’re new to sex or coming into a new college environment? Well, if you’re reading this blog then that means you’re on the right track. There’s a wealth of sex-positive, helpful knowledge out there to inform, inspire, and challenge any preconceived notions you may have picked up about sex and sexuality. That’s why it’s a good idea to ground yourself with some self-exploration and knowledge. Even if you’re college-bound later in life and have plenty of sexual experiences under your belt, it never hurts to revisit the basics. Here are some ideas to help get you started.
That’s right, it’s time for some hands-on experience. You won’t know what you like sexually until you give it a try, so establishing a healthy relationship with self-pleasure can set you up for stellar partnered sex. After all, how are you going to communicate what you want to others if you don’t know yourself? If you want some inspiration before starting your journey of self-exploration, check out our masturbation bucket list.
Before getting your head in the game, you need to get your (thinking) head in the game. That means reflecting on what you do and don’t want out of sex. If you haven’t had much sexual experience before, what questions do you still have? If you’re a seasoned pro, is there anything new you want to try or something you’d like to change? Especially in college, knowing your own boundaries is critical. In the midst of so many new people and environments, even the best of us can feel pressured to do something they don’t want to do. The good news is that knowledge is power; the more you understand yourself, the easier it’ll be to navigate your sex life with confidence.
Advice for the Whole Student Body
For many, college is an opportunity to meet tons of new people, including potential partners. As you acclimate to life on campus, you’ll start to make friends and notice where people tend to hang out. If you’re not used to putting yourself out there and meeting new people, remember to be patient with yourself. Bringing authenticity, curiosity, and an adventurous attitude to dating and sex is always a smart move. So take your time and allow yourself to get immersed in this exciting new social life. From clubs to pubs, there are countless places to meet new and exciting people in college.
Practice Safer Sex
As we always say, there’s no such thing as 100% risk-free sex. Whether you’re worried about pregnancy or STDs, all sexual contact comes with some degree of risk. However, that doesn’t mean you need to throw in the towel. Safer sex practices can help you have a next-level sex life while minimizing risk for you and your partners. In addition to solid communication, practicing safer sex also means knowing how to use your gear effectively. That means reading up on the dos and don’ts of condoms, as well as understanding other birth control methods you or your partner may be using.
Another element of safer sex that can’t be overstated is consent. In college and beyond, consent is a non-negotiable part of sex. You should never feel pressured or coerced into getting intimate with someone; always remember that “no” is a full sentence. Your ability to assert your boundaries is a strength and never a weakness, which is why you’ll never be less of a man for saying no.
We can’t talk about next-level sex without talking about fun. Sexuality is something to be enjoyed, and you’re free to make the most of it in different stages of your adult life. College is no exception. As many of us know, meeting new people post-college generally takes a little more effort than it does in college. So we encourage you to seize the opportunity to meet others while you’re there.
And the fun doesn’t have to end with singles. Couples in college get to enjoy each other during an exciting time in both their lives. To make the most of this period of growth, explore new and fun ways of getting to know your partner sexually. Is there something you or your partner have always wanted to try but never have? Whether you’ve been fantasizing about an intriguing role play scenario, sex toy, or position, starting a positive conversation with your partner about sexual exploration can help you both get closer (in more ways than one).
From self-understanding and safety to fun and experimentation, we hope you’re feeling better about navigating college life with sexual confidence.